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Daily Wisdom Challenge — Proverbs 29

This proverb struck me as a poignant example of the perspective God gives us through His wisdom that counters the anti-wisdom of this world.

Whatever you revere or fear drives you, or at least steers you. Think about it. If there are certain holidays or people that you revere, you will act a certain way around them. Your life and behavior change in their presence or on those days. It works the same with fear. If you are afraid of someone or something, your body does its own thing in their presence. Your heart rate will elevate; your skin may grow clammy and/or sweaty; and your fight-or-flight response kicks in.

We live in a day and age when the powers-that-be use fear to motivate. This can be in the political arena as we have seen recently in many political ads and politically-driven social media posts. The news is always doom and gloom – and changes depending on the political leanings of one channel to the next. We have become accustomed to making decisions based on fear, and per the wisdom we see here, that sort of fear is a snare.

A snare is a device meant to catch something, and often carries with it the purpose of restraining something in order to kill it. If a hunter puts out a snare to catch an animal, it is often so that the animal can be caught, killed, and eaten. This reminds me of the description of Satan in 1 Peter 5:8 as one prowling “around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour”. Satan likes snares because they catch people unaware using camouflage and trickery. 2 Corinthians 4:4 describes this work as him blinding “the minds of unbelievers, to keep them from seeing the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.” He has no glory of his own and nothing of worth for people to follow, so he tricks and hoodwinks people, trying to keep them from seeing the Light.

God doesn’t work like that. Everything is out in the open with Him – out in the light. We have seen throughout the #DailyWisdomChallenge that following God is often referenced as the “fear of the Lord” (Deuteronomy 6:24, 10:12, 31:12-13; 1 Samuel 12:24; 2 Chronicles 19:7; Job 28:28; Psalm 19:9, 34:11; Proverbs 1:7, 8:13, 9:10, 14:27; Ecclesiastes 12:13; Isaiah 11:2-3, 33:6; Luke 1:50; Acts 9:31; 2 Corinthians 7:1; Hebrews 12:28-29), but this is not the kind of fear that Satan uses. As we said above, what you fear or reverence drives and motivates you. The Lord is not an adversary who uses fear to drive you to a snare but one who is worthy of our reverence, respect, and worship – One worth following. We can trust Him because He, like He teaches His people refuses “to practice cunning or to tamper with [His] Word, but by the open statement of the truth [commends Himself and us] to everyone’s conscience” (2 Corinthians 4:2). We can trust Him because He deals in truth; in fact, He is the Truth (John 14:6).

While Satan is on the prowl seeking to devour and destroy, God offers His mighty hand to lift us up and offers the opportunity to cast “all [our] anxieties on Him, because He cares for [us]” (1 Peter 5:6-7). You can trust the Lord and be safe (Psalm 62:8). There is a big difference between prowling around like a lion and being the Lion of the tribe of Judah (Revelation 5:5)! Jesus is the genuine article and came to seek and save the lost instead of seeking destruction (Luke 19:10, John 3:17)!

Your fear of what man can do to you lays a snare. But trusting in God brings safety – from the snare, from destruction, from being devoured.

That’s good news to those who trust in the Lord! How about you? Will you be driven by your fear of man or your trust in God?

For the month of October (and November for slowpokes like me), we are answering the challenge John Goldwater, pastor of Christ Community Church in Grenada, MS, laid out — the #DailyWisdomChallenge. Each day, we are going to read through a chapter of Proverbs corresponding to the day of the month.

This fits with what we have studied in Colossians, specifically Colossians 3:1-2, namely that we should seek “the things that are above, where Christ is” and set our minds like a thermostat “on things that are above, not on things that are on earth”. Imagine what a month meditating on God’s Word daily can do for us.

Won’t you join us on this #DailyWisdomChallenge and set your minds on Christ?

Daily Wisdom Challenge — Proverbs 28

This #DailyWisdomChallenge has been convicting for me. As I have walked through these proverbs, God’s wisdom has outshone the anti-wisdom of the world – the anti-wisdom that lures us to sin instead of illuminating our understanding that there is a God who loves us and made a way for us to come to Him. Proverb 28:13 is a good example of this.

Human beings mess up. A lot. When we mess up and our actions go against God’s righteous standard and expectation, going directly against what God has said, this is called sin. We all do it. First and foremost, we sin against God (Psalm 51:4). This is the case even when we are sinning against other people as well, which is the second point here. This is important to know because sometimes we like to subscribe to the idea that our sin only affects us. It doesn’t. The consequences of our sin affects others, especially when there are people who receive some of the sin we commit.

If we lie, we have sinned against God and the person we lied to. If the lie is about someone else, that adds to it.

If we murder, we have sinned against God. Clearly, we have sinned against the victim, but the sin extends to his or her family, friends, and so on. The toll can be catastrophic in some circles.

If we sin, we sin against God and others. Period.

The reality of sin is that judgment and condemnation is deserved. A holy God created this world and has the authority to say what is right and wrong, holy and righteous. We might not like it. We might wish He had decided that our pet sins were ok or to let something slide, but He is holy and cannot abide with sin. If He did, He would not be holy – definitely not righteous. The good news is that God has made a way for us to be reconciled to Him and not receive that wrath that is due for our sin (Romans 6:23, 1 Corinthians 15:16-21).

The word “reconcile” is helpful here in our understanding of sin. You see, when people talk about sin deserving death, they balk and try to explain how their sin does not warrant such a penalty. But reconcile does not leave room for that. Because we have sinned against God, we are in need of reconciliation because the relationship has been damaged. Sinning against Him puts enmity between us (Romans 5:10). Things need to be put right.

Our proverb today says that the only way for things to be made right between people, where one has done wrong and the other been wronged, is for the transgression to be confessed. Concealing it only allows it to fester – think along the lines of a boil beneath one’s skin. Reconciliation cannot happen unless the transgression is confessed and dealt with. This is essentially the message that Paul shared with the church at Corinth when he shared with them about how God through Christ offers opportunity to be reconciled to Him where He does not count “their trespasses against them” (2 Corinthians 5:19). And He explains this in one of the most beautifully succinct examples of the gospel – the good news of Jesus – in 2 Corinthians 5:21: “For our sake He made Him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in Him we might become the righteousness of God.”

Just as it happens between people, reconciliation means confession needs to be made. 2 Corinthians 5:21 gives us a picture of the God we have sinned against putting His perfect, sinless Son forward in our place to bear the punishment of sin. Those who believe in Him exchange their sin and the debt due for it for Jesus’s righteousness and favor. Jesus, the God we sinned against, puts forth the offering that makes our relationship right. He trades our sin debt for His eternal riches of grace, mercy, and love. He trades our rightful wages of death with a gracious portion of His eternal life. He trades our rap sheet for His righteousness.

Concealing our sin and acting like it does not exist only delays the inevitable. Confessing it – confessing Jesus as Lord and believing He rose from the grave (Romans 10:9) – gives opportunity for reconciliation and salvation. One side leads to death and the other to life.

The advice of Proverbs 28:13 points us toward God’s wisdom and counting all we have as loss for the “surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus” (Philippians 3:8) and forsaking the anti-wisdom of the world that leads us to think there is no consequence for sin.

Lord, thank you for offering reconciliation when we don’t deserve it – when no one else in the world would. Reconciliation is hard to come by, but it reflects Your heart toward those who turn to you. Help me to confess my sin to you instead of concealing it. Help me to do the same for others I sin against as well. Amen.

For the month of October (and *hopefully* the early part of November), we are answering the challenge John Goldwater, pastor of Christ Community Church in Grenada, MS, laid out — the #DailyWisdomChallenge. Each day, we are going to read through a chapter of Proverbs corresponding to the day of the month.

Won’t you join us on this #DailyWisdomChallenge and set your minds on Christ?

Daily Wisdom Challenge — Proverbs 27

I have seen this proverb on t-shirts, coffee mugs, and many social media posts. But the place I see it most these days is in my life.

As we have seen throughout the #DailyWisdomChallenge, God’s wisdom is better — and often contrary — to the world’s wisdom. Worldly wisdom teaches men that they are to be self-sufficient, tough, stoic, and unbreakable. If I have learned anything in my decades of life and decades of being an adult man, men are breakable and definitely not entirely sufficient, at least that hasn’t been the case for me. I spent years trying to prove how strong and sufficient I am. Too many of those years were devoid of the kind of friendships that this proverb — that God’s wisdom — prescribes.

The good news is that God’s wisdom can repair the seemingly wasted years.

In the past decade or so, God began bringing Christ-like men into my life who hold me accountable when I go astray, lift me up when I fall down, and come alongside me to support me when I struggle. More than that, they celebrate with me in joyous times and have provided more laughter than I thought possible. I also get to provide the same to them, although not as well as they do for me.

I am better — sharper — because of the friendship of these men. This was God’s intention, hence Proverbs 27:17. God intended saved men to lift each other up and to sharpen each other’s lives and characters. This is contrary to the fickle relationships that pass for some friendships where people are enablers and anchors to negative behaviors or toxic, long-lasting adolescence. No, God provided us brothers who point us to Him and are willing to knock our rough edges off if we need it or help us cut through trouble if that’s what the occasion calls for.

Thank you, Lord, for the brothers you have sent me.

Won’t you join us on this #DailyWisdomChallenge and set your minds on Christ?

Daily Wisdom Challenge — Proverbs 26

Today’s verse(s) for the #DailyWisdomChallenge use the imagery of eating, just like it did in the one from Proverbs 25. Maybe it is because I have been having to work to get back on my healthy eating patterns, or maybe it is just a holdover from my lifetime as an adult allowing eating to set my course and rule much of my life, but these passages resonate with me.

Psalm 25:16 and 27 dealt with gorging ourselves on good things. Proverbs 26:22 (which is the same exact proverb as 18:8) deals with dining on things that are not good, namely the “words of a whisperer”.

The “words of a whisperer” is referencing the giddy joy people get when they are talking about something they know they shouldn’t be. In some cases, it is the whispers of gossip, sharing some piece of news of something bad that happened or something bad that has befallen someone. That type of news makes people feel good at the expense of others and takes advantage of them looking bad to make oneself look better. In other cases, it could be inappropriate humor or speaking bad/making fun of someone else – things that are bad enough by themselves but made worse by sharing that wicked talk with others.

The very nature of this having to be whispered shows that we know it is bad but decide to do it anyway. Well, we may think we are keeping quiet except to the one with whom we are whispering, but God hears and knows. And here in Proverbs 18:8 and 26:22 we see what he thinks of it; he thinks it is pretty crappy.

That may seem crass (it is definitely pushing Bible study pun boundaries), but look at the end of the verse. When you dine on the whisperer’s words, they go “down into the inner parts of the body”. They get digested. The honey of Proverbs 25:16 gets regurgitated, but the whisperer’s words linger. In the end, they end up becoming waste; however, in the meantime they work their way into our minds and our hearts.

One thing that I remember hearing from teachers and parents growing up – one that I find myself saying to my kiddos at home and school, too – is that, if you have to whisper it, it must not be good. We see that as an example of godly wisdom – not that we should never whisper, but we should not participate in wicked speech, loud, quiet, or otherwise.

Next time you find yourself about to dine on some juicy gossip or listen to someone whisperingly run down someone to you, remember what you are dining on. If you find listening to that crap as appetizing, chew on this analogy and decide if it’s worth it!

For the month of October (and November for lollygaggers like me), we are answering the challenge John Goldwater, pastor of Christ Community Church in Grenada, MS, laid out — the #DailyWisdomChallenge. Each day, we are going to read through a chapter of Proverbs corresponding to the day of the month.

Won’t you join us on this #DailyWisdomChallenge and set your minds on Christ?

Daily Wisdom Challenge — Proverbs 25

When I was reading through Proverbs 25, these verses jumped out at me because they highlight something of the nature of appetite and desire – and moderation. Essentially, too much of a good thing can be bad or bad for you.

Honey, for example, is a good thing. Everyone doesn’t have a sweet tooth, but think about how much a little honey can enrich something. Back in the time in which this was written, honey would have been a rare commodity. One would have to find a bees’ nest and be willing to risk being stung to get it. But to add it to food or drink would have been lovely and special.

Too much honey or sugar and your body gets out of whack. Too much for too many days and years and your body will stay out of whack. Gorging yourself on food and eating until you are ready to pop may seem like a good thing, but when it comes to the point where you are vomiting it up, the sweet becomes bitter and terrible.

It is the same way with glory. Man, it feels good when glory get heaped upon you – when you have done something well and others know it. There is something about being noticed for something you have done really well at that is, well, sweet. The problem with our sin nature is that we can begin to crave that recognition and glory in the same way that one’s sweet tooth can cause them to crave desserts. Gorging on glory works different because you cannot make people recognize and heap praise on you, so you have to do more and more in order to be noticed. But when you call up glory for yourself it is not the same; as v. 27 says, it just is not glorious.

The only thing in the universe that we will never get our fill of is Jesus. The more we know Him, the sweeter the relationship is. You cannot gorge on Jesus because He is infinitely sweet and eternally good. Seek Him heaps glory upon Him and leaves none for us, but we won’t notice because the more we know Him, the more we want to make Him known. Making Him known is glorious and sweet.

For the month of October, we are answering the challenge John Goldwater, pastor of Christ Community Church in Grenada, MS, laid out — the #DailyWisdomChallenge. Each day, we are going to read through a chapter of Proverbs corresponding to the day of the month.

Won’t you join us on this #DailyWisdomChallenge and set your minds on Christ?

Daily Wisdom Challenge — Proverbs 23

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Proverbs 23:23 caught my attention and made me think about the importance of our time in the #DailyWisdomChallenge. Wisdom and knowledge can very easily be treated as a commodity to be sold, traded, and purchased. In our lives, we encounter a lot of distractions that tempt us to chase after fleeting pleasures and material gain. Yet, the wisdom set forth in this verse calls us to prioritize truth — God’s Truth (John 14:6) — above all else, recognizing that it is the foundation for a life of godliness and integrity (Proverbs 4:5-7).

In John Bunyan’s classic allegory Pilgrim’s Progress, he illustrates this challenge by showing his pilgrims traveling through a place called Vanity Fair, a marketplace filled with tempting goods that represent the vanities and temptations of this world. Merchants call out to the pilgrims to “Buy, buy, buy — buy this, and buy that”, but the pilgrims resolutely stand firm and declare, “We buy the truth!” They know that the truth — along with wisdom and understanding — is far more valuable than the fleeting pleasures of the world.

In Matthew 13:44-46, Jesus shares two parables that beautifully show the value of the truth. Jesus compares the Kingdom of Heaven to a hidden treasure found in a field along with a merchant searching for valuable pearls. When the treasure is discovered and the merchant finds a “pearl of great price”, they joyfully sell everything they have to have them. The things of God are more valuable than the things of this world. Just as the pilgrims in Vanity Fair chose truth over worldly good, we are called to recognize the value of Jesus — Truth incarnate.

To “buy the truth” means to be willing to sacrifice our time, energy, and even material wealth for the sake of gaining knowledge and understanding, but when we actively seek the God of Truth, whether through studying the Word, praying, or discipleship, we are investing in something that will enrich our lives and guide our hearts (2 Timothy 2:15).

In a world filled with voices vying for our attention, let us look to God’s wisdom in Proverbs 23:23. We are literally in a season when political pundits are spending billions of dollars — on both sides of battle — and peddling truths, mistruths, and false truths. There are people on both sides who, even when presented with truth contrary to what they believe or want to believe, refuse to listen to truth because they have bought what their particular candidate is selling. When faced with such things, may our response be to look to Christ and affirm our commitment: “We buy the truth! We buy the truth! Jesus is the Truth!” In doing so, we seek God’s knowledge, God’s wisdom, God’s instruction, and God’s understanding. His ways are best. His truth is absolute. May we forever side with Him and be satisfied in Him!

Daily Wisdom Challenge — Proverbs 21

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Proverbs 21:2 reminds us of how easy it is to assume our actions are good just because they feel right to us. We want to believe our choices are pleasing to God, but we often judge ourselves too favorably. Yet, while we look at our outward actions, God sees deeper. He knows our true motives and attitudes, seeing through any attempts to justify or excuse ourselves. Scripture tells us that God “weighs the heart”—a reminder that He alone discerns our intentions, even when we might not fully understand them ourselves (1 Samuel 16:7, Jeremiah 17:9).

In Proverbs 21:3, God shows us what truly pleases Him: a life lived with justice and righteousness. He values sincere obedience over empty ritual. Even in the Old Testament, God reminded His people that religious ceremonies and sacrifices weren’t enough on their own. These rituals were only meaningful when done with a heart dedicated to love, mercy, and truth (Isaiah 1:12-17, Hosea 6:6). Jesus echoed this when He criticized religious leaders who focused on appearing righteous rather than practicing true compassion. They missed the heart of worship, going through the motions while failing to love others as God commanded.

For us, this means worshiping God with our whole lives, not just through outward actions. True devotion goes beyond attending church or saying prayers; it’s about living each day with a heart that desires to honor God and serve others.

As we strive to follow Jesus, let’s invite God to examine our hearts and guide us to live in ways that reflect His love and justice. May our worship be more than words or rituals, but a genuine expression of our love for God and commitment to His ways. In living this way, we bring true honor to the Lord, fulfilling His desire for righteousness and justice in the world.

Daily Wisdom Challenge — Proverbs 20

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One of the greatest joys I have had while walking through the Proverbs in this #DailyWisdomChallenge is finding little gospel nuggets like Proverbs 20:6. I have to remind myself, still after years of knowing Christ and studying His Word, that learning Him is not an academic exercise or wisdom for wisdom’s sake (Ephesians 4:20-21). No, time spent in study of God’s Word is time spent with Him. And as we walk through it, Old Testament or New, it is Jesus we know more and more.

Proverbs 20:6 does not directly point to Jesus, but He is such a stark contrast to this rhetorical question that He appears. Before the question of “a faithful man who can find?” comes a statement: “Many a man proclaims his own steadfast love…”. That word translated “steadfast love” here is the Hebrew word hesed (or chesed depending on your pronunciation). It, like the NT word agape is used throughout the OT to describe the great love of God – His never failing, never giving up, eternal love that He has for His people. This is where the contrast comes in: the proverb states that there are “many” men who are proclaiming their own “steadfast love”.

I don’t know about you, but any time I go to proclaiming my excellence or how good I have something or can do something is right about the time that I am humbled (or humiliated). For many to profess their own steadfast love is recipe for a letdown. That is the reason for the question about who can find a “faithful man”.

Human beings are not capable of “steadfast love” on their own. Our love is all too often the opposite of steadfast. If agape is “unconditional love”, our human love is conditional. Sadly, our love for our own selves outweighs our love for others. Our love for comfort outweighs love for others. Our love for our own honor and what we deserve or feel entitled to outweighs our love for others. I could keep going, but I am guessing you get the picture.

The “steadfast love” of God is different. He is kind of defined by His “steadfast love” as it is part of the way He introduced Himself to Moses in Exodus 34:6 – that He is a God who is “merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness”. We see that identity solidified in the NT in 1 John that “God is love” (1 John 4:8) and that He shows us His love by sending “His only Son into the world, so that we might live through Him” (1 John 4:9). His love motivated Him becoming the “propitiation” – the wrath-bearing atoning sacrifice – for our sins (1 John 4:10). And, if we are to be capable of that kind of love it is because “He first loved us” (1 John 4:19)!

You may have experienced hurt from someone who proclaims love for you and disappoints. It’s a pretty common thing. People fail at this, even people who have experienced the saving love of God in Jesus. You may have been – or are now – at a point when you found yourself asking like Proverbs 20:6 who can find “a faithful man”. Rest assured, Jesus is the “faithful man”! He described this great love Himself on His last night with His disciples before He was crucified for our sin: “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down His life for His friends” (John 15:13).

Thankfully then, in Jesus we can turn the question in Proverbs 20:6 into a definitive declaration of God’s love and faithfulness. God proclaims His own steadfast love, and He is truly faithful!

Daily Wisdom Challenge — Proverbs 18

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Outside of God saving me, the single greatest blessing in my life is God allowing me to be married to Candice. It does not take much thought or thinking through our relationship over the last twenty-three years to confirm that she is definitely my “good thing” and an example of God’s grace and “favor” in my life. And none who know or care for me would disagree.

But Proverbs 18:22 is not just about me and Candice. It, like so many other proverbs, finds its meaning not only in its own words but in contrast to others. As we looked at when discussing the “forbidden woman” v. the wife of one’s youth in Proverb 5, there is a contrast between the life that God prescribes and the paths that forge on their own. In the coming chapters of Proverbs (21:19 and 25:24), there is a contrast between wives who seek to be something other than a good thing or godly favor but to drive their husbands to be better off living “in a desert land” (Proverbs 21:19) or on “a corner of the housetop than in a house” (Proverbs 25:24).

Proverbs 18:22 represents living according to God’s wisdom in contrast to the anti-wisdom of the temptations of the forbidden woman or the plight of a quarrelsome marriage. God has a specific design for marriage and, as He Himself invented marriage, His design works best.

Before we get into God’s design for marriage, let us clarify as we did in our our “Adorned With Christ in All of Life: Marriage” part of our Colossians series, marriage isn’t for everyone, as Paul explains in 1 Corinthians 7. Marriage is good and “should be held in honor” (Hebrews 13:4), but Paul says those who stay unmarried can have even greater devotion to Christ (1 Corinthians 7:38).

God’s design for marriage began when He remarked in the Garden of Eden that it was “not good” that Adam “should be alone” and decided to “make him a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:18). God performed the first surgery and the first marriage in quick succession. He created Eve from Adam’s rib and joined them together as man and wife. Their union was to be the example for those marriages moving forward — in intimacy as well as how it was set apart (Genesis 2:23-25).

Many try and abuse God’s design for marriage by citing the term “helper” (Genesis 2:18) and the call to submission in Ephesians 5:22, but those picture something different for marriage — something better. You see, God did not create marriage for a man’s benefit but also for women.

While it is “favor from the Lord” for man to find a wife, it is not a curse for the wife. The husband is to love and care for his wife “as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25). Marriage is to be a picture of the gospel (Ephesians 5:32).

To find God’s purpose for your life is a good thing. If it is singleness, that is a good and godly pursuit. If it is marriage, that is a good and godly pursuit. But both should be sought as God prescribes.

Marriage works best the way God intended with husbands caring for and loving their wives and wives caring for and loving their husbands. When I think specifically of how God has blessed me and shown favor to me in my wife, I think of the rib He used to make Eve (Genesis 2:21). God did not just design marriage; He also designed the human body. He made the rib cage to protect the most vital human organs like the heart and lungs. My wife is small, but she is fiercely protective of those she loves. She is protective of me even when I think I do not need protection. She looks to care for me even when I think I am the only one doing the caring and providing.

She has also taught me what it is to be a “helper” in the Genesis 2:18 sense. Everything that I do is enhanced because God has put her in my life. He has changed and grown me immensely over the years by His indwelling Spirit, and He has given me a desire to change, grown, and be better for the wife He has given me.

If you are reading this and married, take time and thank God for the spouse He has given you. Then, talk to your spouse and tell them you are thankful for them. Know that God has a plan for your marriage as surely as He has a plan for you (Ephesians 2:10), and see to it that you represent God’s favor to your spouse rather than husband-ing or wife-ing in such a way that they are headed for the desert or the roof! As Martin Luther said centuries ago, “Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave.”

Thank you, Lord, for the gift of marriage. Thank you for the way that Your relationship with Your church gives us the perfect example of love and a high standard to live up to — a standard worth striving for. Thank you for Candice and make me a man worth being married to!

Daily Wisdom Challenge — Proverbs 17

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This proverb his my right square in my heart.

I spent the bulk of my childhood being the butt of many jokes, and made fun of quite mercilessly. I was beat up and often bullied. The bruises faded and broken glasses were replaced, but the scars — physical and emotional — remain.

This is one of the reasons I wanted to become a teacher. Throughout those years of being bullied, there were a handful that took notice, but most, for whatever reason, were oblivious or chalked it up to that’s just the way kids are. If you have never been treated like this (or were on the giving side of these sorts of encounters rather than the receiving), you do not know what a relief it is when someone notices and helps you. Carrie Mack and Linda Bumpers at Willa Wilson Elementary were blessings from God that helped me see my value despite the efforts of bus riders and drivers who were glad to see it stomped out. These ladies still to this day look for and out for me and are encouragements in my life. Seeing either of them today fills my heart with joy and encouragement and reminds me of light in the midst of darkness.

In middle school, I know teachers saw me being bullied. The example that first comes to mind is Mike Miles. He knew what I was going through without being told. He went and had my schedule changed so that I would be out of the study hall where my misery was always the subject of study to his study hall. He taught me how to play chess. He encouraged me to read books if that’s what I liked to do. In fact, that was the gist of what he taught me (other than the math he was tasked with): he taught me to be who God had made me to be and not let others diminish that. When I see him even today, I never hesitate to tell him how thankful I am that God used him to save my life — that when others worked to convince me my life had no value, God used him to remind me who and Whose I was.

There was one particular memory that came to mind when I read this verse that convicts me still to this day. When I think of this particular memory, I am filled with nauseating guilt even though it has been over twenty years ago.

In sixth grade, Carolyn Swanson saw that I had been bullied and mistreated as well. She also noticed other students who endured the same. Sixth grade back then meant mandatory PE a few days a week (some days library or music). For me, that was like painting a giant bullseye because that meant either getting picked last for teams or not at all (this was the 1990s; participation was not mandatory, and exclusion/mockery were allowed). Even though I did not want to be picked because that would mean I could go up into the stands and read rather than embarrassing myself athletically in a very public way, I really wanted to be picked. Well, I really wanted to belong.

One particular day, a group of the more popular guys approached me and pointed out one of my classmates. Me and this other guy were basically tied for least popular in the sixth grade as well as in who could be made fun of more. Neither of us were athletic. Neither of us came from families with much money. Both of us were quiet and clothed differently than others. The guys convinced me that the surest way to be one of them — to get picked for teams and get to hang out with them — was to make fun of the other guy. He had just gotten some new boots that he was proud of and had worn them to school. It made me sick to my stomach to think of doing that to someone else, but this could have meant that I got bumped up a level and got a reprieve from being made fun of. So, right there in the middle school gym, I let the other guy have it. I was ugly. It was shameful. He cried. And then the other guys started in — on me.

Their plan all along was to embarrass me and show that I was fake. They knew I professed to be a Christian and saw this as an opportunity to cast aspersions on that profession of faith. They gave me every bit of what I gave the other guy and worse. I cried, too, but not so much for what I was receiving but that I had allowed myself to do to the other guy what I knew was terrible.

Mrs. Swanson somehow found out about this, and I can remember what she said to me about it like it was yesterday. She told me that it was worse for me to do that than the others because I truly knew what it felt like to be treated like that. This was not a means for her to belittle me but to invest in me. She fussed at me, and I deserved it. She told me that she expected more out of me and knew that I would learn from this and grow into the man she knew I could be — despite my failure and because I would learn from it.

I am ashamed to say that it took months for me to get the courage to apologize to the other guy, and before I could, he moved away. It took nearly twenty years to get in contact with him again. I won’t tell you a story of apology and reconciliation here because I do not want to paint myself as a good guy for any of this. I want to help you understand Proverbs 17:5.

Everyone you come into contact with is made in the image of God. He created them and formed them in their mother’s womb. Each of us is unique, with unique features and personalities. Some of us, like myself, are more different than societal norms than others. And it is all too easy to make fun rather than to show care and respect.

This is not wrong merely for the human life you did not respect. It is a slap in the face of their “Maker”.

If someone is going through a tough time — some “calamity” — whether it is their fault, someone else’s fault, or nobody’s fault, it is not a time for mockery. Even if you think someone is getting the “calamity” they deserve, it is not a time to mock and make fun; we sure don’t enjoy it when calamities of our own making find us.

I guess this is really a plea to be kind to others and recognize that the same God who made you made them. There is never a time to mock or insult. There is always time to show love and care.

For me, this drove me to become a teacher. The examples of those who took up for me influence how I interact with kids — all of them I have and all that I can — on a daily basis. The example of the one who saw me becoming like the others and intervened has a daily impact, too, on the man God made me to be as well as in ways that I can watch out for others as well. I pray that this little bit of testimony helps you along the way, whether you are the bully, the bullied, or the bystander. Let us look out for others and look to God for how He would have us to treat folks.